Fear of commitment dating
We always talk about the downsides of relationships, but the bottom line is that while I have been in relationships for the last 20 years, he has been single for at least 12.He is afraid of relationships for very different reasons than I’ve ever been. I guess we have all been reluctant to trust others at some time in our lives. I surmised that he went for the less attractive girls to boost his self esteem so he wouldn’t get rejected. He admitted he would give girls his number despite having no intention of ever following up.We talk about the breakdown of monogamy in modern society and the fallacy of marriage — things I love to discuss.Recently he admitted that he’s afraid of letting his guard down, afraid of rejection, afraid of getting his heart broken into pieces, of liking someone more than she likes him.If there are things in his life that demand more attention than his love life, he'll commit to the other stuff and deal with love when he can.
We hear it in the media, as well as use it to describe ourselves or other people who seem chronically unable to decide whether to commit properly to a relationship.A recent study chronicled in USA Today ran with the headline, “Not so afraid to commit after all.” The lead paragraph read, “Men are more likely than women to prefer marriage over lifelong singlehood and in many ways are as interested in serious family relationships as women, according to a new study.” In the survey—which included 12,000 men and women ages 15-44—respondents were asked, “It is better to get married than go through life single?” The results: 66 percent of men agreed compared with 51 percent of women.He and I talk a lot about sex and relationships, and half of the time, he cannot keep a straight face, almost like a teenager, embarrassed by our honest, mature conversations.
Other times, we have these very insightful conversations about love, life and relationships.More personally, most guys didn’t grow up with a father who understood his emotions and knew how to express them.