Dating bad men
The term "toxic" is a bad term, particularly when used to describe men, because it doesn't mean anything.It is meaningless psychobabble that doesn't really say anything about the person to whom you're referring. Is he a good guy but does some bad things, or is he a bad guy who usually does bad things?I didn't feel that I should go out of my way to be nice because I liked being nice. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. They aren't very open, keeping mostly to themselves – that's mysterious.More than that, I thought that's what women wanted: men who were nice. However, most women seem to have the concepts confused. They distance themselves and give the cold shoulder whenever they don't want something from you; it makes her ego crazy – why doesn't he want her? If he just got to know her better, he would surely fall for her. Not because she's not lovable but because he isn't loving.Which means the whole label is bullshit to begin with…
The essence of a bad boy is isolation, carelessness, self-indulgence, selfishness and attitude.
See, you've called him "toxic" but you've essentially wasted your own time by saying something that doesn't say anything at all! There are guys who are abusers, have addictions or even have deep-seated anger or even hatred toward women and act accordingly, but I don't even know if I would describe these subtypes as "toxic." These guys are really severe, and my association to "toxic" is "bad for you." The real meaning of toxic refers to a negative reaction to chemicals - and that sounds pretty serious if what you mean to say by calling a man "toxic" is that he is a type of guy to avoid. The bigger point is that the language we use can be so helpful as a means of communicating with each other.
If we all take an occasional moment in describing someone or something and wait for the best word, you will share the word and whomever you're talking to will be more connected with you in that moment because he or she now has a picture—based soley on a specific word or two you chose.
In fact, I promise you that if you read it all and prevent yourself from making the mistakes that I’m going to mention below – you’ll get laid much more often than you do now!
For starters – people’s whole concept of “bad boys” is usually WRONG: The misconception that “bad boys” are bad people is deluded and a complete myth – because the vast majority of girls do not like bad men, or bad people in general.They were saved, so that ensured a God-honoring dating relationship, right?